I was talking to this random guy about body image, self talk, and bondage, as one does when in line to get coffee, and he asked me what I thought was sexy about myself?
Even though it was in the context of the conversation, the question caused me great pause. Just… wow. I expressed that I don’t often think about myself as sexy… the word that comes to mind is “cute”.
Because in my mind cute is safe.
Sexy is not safe.
Who can relate?
We can go into countless examples of the suppression, over sexualization, and war on women :::cough FU TEXAS:::
I’m someone who has lived more in their Yang, then Yin. Especially when in work mode. Which had taken up a pretty big part of my life up until the pandemic. Its been a practice for me to lean into, feel safe in, and be seen in this way.
Before this new friend went on his way he asked me one more time what I thought was sexy about myself. He also said, “You know what it is, sweetie. Stop resisting yourself.”
I finally said, “I think it’s sexy that I am willing to take risks, I am confident in my work, I am independent, I am funny, I open my heart to meeting new and different people, and I am happy! Physically, my waist, butt, collarbone, and eyes are fuckin sexy!”
I got a “Yes, honey! You are all those things, sexy! Now go live it!”
Thank you fairy gay mother! (As he called himself ) This was a conversation about a month ago in SF, but it’s stuck with me. And I have to say… I have been feeling pretty darn sexy since I faced that and stopped resisting.
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